tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3694268745639556466.post5608366231576548191..comments2022-01-14T11:56:12.565-08:00Comments on Mumble, Fumble, Tumble.: Numbers.Aislinnhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04554613259350774248noreply@blogger.comBlogger10125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3694268745639556466.post-1265063030202470592008-04-18T23:20:00.000-07:002008-04-18T23:20:00.000-07:00Hi,I was just poking around Slog (I have friends i...Hi,<BR/><BR/>I was just poking around Slog (I have friends in Seattle) and I found your blog. <BR/><BR/>I keep a list. It's in pieces, and it starts after the most significant relationship I've had ended. I keep track of everything from dates to kisses to proper sex. I love knowing the dates and full names of everyone I fuck around with. Perhaps I'm easily entertained.<BR/><BR/>I'm usually a lot sluttier than the people I date, so I tend not to have the 'numbers conversation' with my partner. Plus it doesn't really matter to me. It might be interesting to know in the context of learning more about how they relate to women etc, but that's it. <BR/><BR/>As far as your use of the word 'slut' -- after my obligatory freshman year women studies class, I became familiar with (and thoroughly rejected) the whole slut/stud double standard. So. Slut became a label that in recent years I've embraced. I guess my question to you is: What's so wrong with being a slut (slut, slag, ho, whore, etc -- take yer pick.)?Honeyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00030495635737725237noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3694268745639556466.post-40452116853173039262008-04-09T08:59:00.000-07:002008-04-09T08:59:00.000-07:00actually, i didn't get around to putting it on the...actually, i didn't get around to putting it on the list. but, i will eventually. though, i'm not sure exactly where it would fit in chronologically, but i have a good idea.<BR/>if i had a computer, i'd probably transfer my list to it. then save it on my desktop with the title "people i've fooled around with", so anyone that came over and used my computer would see it and look at it, then make fun of me. yet another reason i should really gets me a computer.danahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03286938558229436267noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3694268745639556466.post-26827815926820770992008-04-03T20:46:00.000-07:002008-04-03T20:46:00.000-07:00This comment has been removed by the author.Mikkihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13370353055170443001noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3694268745639556466.post-32351017841286339862008-04-02T17:37:00.000-07:002008-04-02T17:37:00.000-07:00Five year trailing average: number of partners in ...Five year trailing average: number of partners in the last five years, divided by five ~= # of partners per year.<BR/><BR/>I hate to interrupt all the mutual empowerment. But, releasing oneself from the burden of numbers doesn't change the external definition. An above average number of sexual partners is tautologically equivalent to being a "slut."<BR/><BR/>Whether or not you care about it...Scott Robinsonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04780892722721071565noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3694268745639556466.post-55750519892829614842008-04-02T14:25:00.000-07:002008-04-02T14:25:00.000-07:00Scott: I don't know what a five year trailing aver...Scott: I don't know what a five year trailing average is. Guess that makes me a slut!<BR/><BR/>Will: Sorry, the log-in is annoying. I don't remember enough of Four Weddings and a Funeral to see the comparison, but I'll trust you.<BR/><BR/>Dana: So, did you add him to the list? When I was still keeping a list, I moved it to the computer, so that I could change the order in case of omissions, and so I didn't have to dig out my ancient journal, since it was started in the one I kept in highschool. Also, those names are priceless. Another reason I love you.<BR/><BR/>Daniel: Thank you. It's been a while, and I don't necessarily expect you to check back, but if you do, do you mind telling me your Slog name? Just curious. Unless you're like me, and post under you're real name.<BR/><BR/>Thanks for sharing the story about you and your girlfriend. I guess what interests me most is why it was worth it to you to end the friendship? Is this girlfriend "the one"? Wouldn't "the one" be above irrational jealousy? The one thing I absolutely cannot stand in a relationship is jealousy. The way I see it, either my boyfriend trusts me, or he doesn't. If he trusts me, I should be able to choose my own friends. If he doesn't trust me: why is he my boyfriend? I'm not judging your decision, just interested in why you made it.<BR/><BR/>Shelley: Haha, "sexin spree." I love you, Shelley, I wish we got to hang out more. <BR/><BR/><I>Now, years later, I'm still glad I let go of the list but only wish I hadn't grown up with such inhibitions to believe that the numbers directly related to how much of a slut a person is. Then I may have been able to deal with the 'new freedom' in a more responsible way. </I><BR/><BR/>This sums up the point quite nicely. What's strange is that I grew up with a mother that in no way discouraged, uh, "sexual liberation," and I think you did as well. So where did we get the idea that it was such a shameful thing, worth repressing, and then acting out against?Aislinnhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04554613259350774248noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3694268745639556466.post-84193374021334214052008-03-17T17:03:00.000-07:002008-03-17T17:03:00.000-07:00When I decided to stop keeping track of the number...When I decided to stop keeping track of the numbers, my numbers we relatively low. It felt liberating though and in response I then went on the period of my life I refer to as my "sexin' spree". At that time, I found the numbers to be a restraint and without them I was free to do as I wanted, when I wanted, and with whomever I wanted. Clearly, I went overboard and made more than a few bad, rash decisions. <BR/>Now, years later, I'm still glad I let go of the list but only wish I hadn't grown up with such inhibitions to believe that the numbers directly related to how much of a slut a person is. Then I may have been able to deal with the 'new freedom' in a more responsible way.<BR/>In response to your "friend" situation: its bizarre to see a man with so much insight into the female mind get owned by one. You would think he could talk his way outa'that one.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05139477879701693096noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3694268745639556466.post-29012530260734413632008-03-12T12:51:00.000-07:002008-03-12T12:51:00.000-07:00Aislinn, I like your posts on Slog. I can relate t...Aislinn, I like your posts on Slog. I can relate to the "friend" situation, but from the friend point of view. My girlfriend was jealous of someone I had slept with who I was still in contact with and she flipped over it. We were never serious and it didn't even last all that long. There was nothing going on with us and there wasn't going to be; she just couldn't deal. I ended the friendship, but it bothered me: why should I stop talking to and hanging out with someone whose company I enjoy when I'm not doing anything wrong? I don't understand it to this day and am somewhat resentful. I miss the friendship; the laughter and the conversation. By the way, I don't think you're a slut and I don't think numbers matter. From what I can tell about you you seem funny, well grounded, cool and smart. Your confidence is refreshing. I hope you find someone who sees all that and I hope the friend's girlfriend someday realizes shes being irrational and allows you to resume your lost friendship. Best of luck.Danielhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15845797242348470095noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3694268745639556466.post-18381096764444751242008-03-12T09:22:00.000-07:002008-03-12T09:22:00.000-07:00funny you should post about this. i was actually j...funny you should post about this. i was actually just reviewing my list the other night (so, yes, i do keep a list). i've listed everyone i've ever fooled around with in any capacity(though i did notice the absence of this one guy that i gave an h.j. to, but never kissed.....classy right?).<BR/>i think one of the big reasons i keep the list is so that i can laugh later at what i called people whose names had escaped me in the light of day. i.e. 'random army guy', 'matt at the gorge', 'josh....i think?', 'lynn's boyfriends friend', 'bathroom at beacon pub'.<BR/>does a persons number effect my opinion of them? yes. not necessarily negatively or positively, but it does.danahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03286938558229436267noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3694268745639556466.post-36806394094896381672008-03-11T00:46:00.000-07:002008-03-11T00:46:00.000-07:00Tried to post before but I keep messing up the log...Tried to post before but I keep messing up the login.<BR/><BR/>Anyway, just wanted to say it's like in Four Weddings and a Funeral - it really doesn't matter in the long run. On the other hand, some men can be insecure about it.<BR/><BR/>Once you're beyond counting former partners on one hand, or past obsessing on how many fingers on one hand the count is, it really isn't critical at all.Will in Seattlehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01841653436817189443noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3694268745639556466.post-38394828285937257172008-03-08T00:36:00.000-08:002008-03-08T00:36:00.000-08:00Numbers are unimportant to me.They're fun to play ...Numbers are unimportant to me.<BR/><BR/>They're fun to play with on a statistical basis. Want to know if you're a "slut?" Check your five year trailing average.<BR/><BR/>I've kept track. But, my number is small. Comparatively speaking, I became sexually active late.Scott Robinsonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04780892722721071565noreply@blogger.com